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Looking after a Loved One




There are many ways where life affects us for the worse, and most of the time we can’t help it. Many challenging things occur within our lives, and in the modern climate, costs are being squeezed so much at every opportunity, people are being forced to be carers for the ones they love, which is the biggest challenge anyone will face. This isn't just for those who are looking after their parents, but there are some unfortunate circumstances of children being put into this difficult situation. So, what is it really like, and what can we do if we are thrust into this situation? My mum had to look after my Grandparents for a number of years, and although she struggled, I don’t think she would have had it any other way. Here’s a little post on what it’s like to care for a loved one, and how you can cope if the need to become a carer has fallen to you.

ALWAYS REMEMBER: THERE IS HELP


It can be a very isolating feeling that you have to abruptly stop your life to look after someone you care about, but it's important to remember that there are ways and means of support available, even for those who don't have the finances. From live in care services, to support groups, even online forums can help anyone that ends up in this isolating situation. There are always people to talk to in order to help you.


UNDERSTAND HOW NEGATIVE EMOTIONS EFFECT YOU


Unfortunately, your negative emotions might get the better of you when you become a carer. I know that it would get to me that’s for sure. We all react to stress in different ways, and for those who feel that it can be all-consuming, it's vital, especially if you are adamant that you are going to continue to care for this person, that you look after yourself. Not just physically, but mentally also. Controlling your negative emotions can be done in different ways, but accepting that you can have power over them is important, and key to moving on with your life.

IT’S A STEEP LEARNING CURVE


There are many self-help manuals in learning how to look after your loved ones, but the best way to become equipped to deal with the situation is by living it and learning. This is why so many carers feel like they are isolated or alone because there are so many moments where it is just you left to deal with the mess. In this respect, people very easily get overwhelmed and anxious, and yes, it is a steep learning curve, but it gets better. And if you can learn appropriate coping strategies, this makes the process much easier.

When faced with challenges in life, the temptation to focus on the negative is extremely overbearing. And when it's someone that you love, and they are deteriorating, this can affect your moral compass. In some ways, it's like a job, and in some ways, it isn't. In taking on this challenge and being a carer for the ones you love, the fact is that you won't just learn so much about the act of caring, but you will learn a lot about yourself.

Do you care for a loved one? How do you find it on your mental health?

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