Not many people know this, but I failed my driving test when I was 18. I wasn’t used to the idea of failing, I hadn’t failed anything before in my life, and it really hit me hard. I only received 2 minors, and the major I did receive was unfounded, but that’s beside the point. I still failed.

Ever since, I’ve really struggled to come to terms with driving again. I really hate failing, and since I failed my driving test it’s made me terrified of getting behind the wheel again. I mean, there are other factors of course, I was nearly in a car accident the day my nephew was born, and it’s made me jittery on fast roads. But recently, something has changed. I’m managing to learn again. Slowly, of course, but I’m doing it.

It took me a long way to get here, which is why I thought I’d write up a post for those in a similar situation. It can be really daunting thinking about getting back in the learner seat, but hopefully I can help…

WEIGH UP THE PROS AND CONS


I’ve been earning money steadily now for the past two years, and I have more than enough in order to learn how to drive. I still get the bus to and from work, and up until recently I didn’t think anything of it. However, I finally wondered one day how easy it would be if I just had a car. I could visit my boyfriend whenever I wanted. I could take us camping/travel more and just have my own freedom. But then, of course, came the anxiety that comes with driving.

So, I sat down and I weighed up my options. I wrote down exactly what bothered me (stress, crashing, inadequacy). I then wrote down the pros (freedom, travel, independence). Looking at my list, it made me realise that the positives outweight the negatives.


TALK TO FRIENDS AND FAMILY


After I made my list, I talked to my parents. They agreed that it was time I tried again, and since I’ve been seeing a therapist about my anxiety, that it would be good to help me move forward. If you have close friends, why not ask them how they feel about it? More often than not, you’ll find that they will egg you on and keep you motivated.


THE HARD PART


After I did this, I saw with myself for a bit and hashed it out. I figured that I wouldn’t let my anxiety keep me from doing things in life. So, I went on Facebook and asked friends for recommendations on driving instructors in my local area. A few friends linked me to someone friendly and great, so I reached out.

Three weeks later I’m 3 lessons in! I was shakey at first, and I’m still stupidly light on the accelerator, but I know that it will take time to get back to normal, and I know that no-one is judging me. If you have an instructor who’s friendly, it can really help. If you don’t, please don’t let this dissuade you. Keep looking until you find one that you’re comfortable with. You’ll get the hang of it, I promise!

This is a collaborative post.

Xo