The Way you talk to Yourself Influences How Others See You
When you look in the mirror, what do you see? For a long time, and even sometimes now, I’ll look at myself and wonder who I am. Am I happy with who I am? Do I recognize the person looking back at me? I’m very critical of myself, and it’s hard to reprogram that part of me. Ever since I was little, I would look in the mirror and hate the person looking back at me. Not only that, but the way I spoke to myself back the influenced who I became my eating disorder, and the confidence I have in my ability. Whether we like it or not, how we view ourselves heavily impacts the way that others see us. Take a look at Amy Schumer’s new film, I Feel Pretty. The premise is of how a woman, who goes from being overlooked and unhappy, to being flattered with comments & enjoying herself. In the film, Amy’s character hits her head, making her think that she is beautiful. Nothing physically has changed about her but her thought process, and this sparks a dominos effect on the way in which everyone else in the movie thinks about her. The point is that it was her mindset that changed, and by changing the way she sees herself, she influenced the world around her so that they would view her the same way too. The principle is simple; we should love ourselves in order for others to love us. It isn’t hard, but it’s the only way we will truly find peace. The Benefits of NPL Training are astounding and means that you can change the way you talk to yourself in those quiet moments. Personally, I’ve been seeing a therapist who helps me with my self image, but alongside that, I’m also trying new ways to stop the negativity…
I’m quite nervous about this, but I’m getting my hair cut! I won’t tell you which style, but I think it’s going to be great. Right now, I wear my hair in the same way I always have. Curly, or in a bun. I want to explore different ways to style my hair, and the idea I have in mind will (hopefully) look amazing!
Getting Out More
This is still a work in progress, as I actually love staying in bed 24/7, but I’m trying to get out of the house more. Whether I’m going for a walk with my dog or just heading out to the cinema, I want to spend more time away from the house – as I actually tend to start overthinking when I spend so much time alone.
Trying To Be Healthy
I think that food is one of the biggest influences when it comes to the way we think about ourselves. It can make you feel great, look great, and can change your mindset about yourself. However, wanting to eat healthily and actually doing it can be really hard. When you have an eating disorder, changing your habits can be very difficult, so with this one I’m taking it at a snail’s pace – but I’m sure I’ll start feeling better soon.
It may sound like hippy bullshit, but meditating and affirmations can (sometimes) set you up for the day. You don’t have to stand in front of a mirror or say it out loud either, you can simply wake up and talk to yourself in your head. Lately, I wake up and think “I deserve to exist in whatever body I own”. This is due to the recent feelings I have about my weight. If you want to start this, try and think of a mantra and roll with it!